You’re single and you’ve been looking to attract your true love for a long time now. Recently, you’ve gone on a few dates, even been in a relationship or two, but nothing has worked. All of your family and your friends are giving you more dating and relationship advice than you’re even asking for.
And one of the MOST ANNOYING and MOST FREQUENT pieces of advice you’re getting is: “You just need to get out there more and you’ll find your man.” Then that’s followed up with “You’ve got to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince, you know”.
But what if you don’t WANT to get out there more? What if there’s a feeling inside your heart and gut that’s telling you that there’s just got to be a better way??
Well, I’m here to tell you that you DON’T need to get out there more, darling.
Good news, right?
But here’s the deal, you need to get IN more! You DO have to expend some energy and focus and make finding the one a priority in your life! Just like anything else in life, relationships are not much different. To attract a conscious and intentional relationship, you must be conscious and intentional going about it. It doesn’t happen by default.
So what can you do to “get in more”?
1. Treat yourself to Extraordinary Self Care. Take extra good care of your spirit, your body, your mind, your heart. Want to experience extraordinary love in your life? Begin with loving yourself that much!
2. Journal daily on what you dream of in relationship. What kind of person do you long for? What kind of life do you want to lead with this person? How would he/she contribute to your life? How would you contribute to theirs? Get clear, go deep.
3. Get a personal Love Mentor. If you’d like to find out more about working with me personally, click HERE. I only work with a very small number of women personally, 1-on-1 each year, now is that time and I’ve got 3 spots available, so act quickly if you’d like to explore high level personal love mentoring.
4. Have fun. Do something that makes your heart sing at least once a day!
5. Take a personal growth/spiritual development workshop. Push your boundaries. Challenge yourself and do something new. Think you’ve done it all? Think you “know this already”? I say this respectfully, and if you haven’t found your soulmate yet, there’s still some learning to do on this subject. Be the first to know about our next Love Breakthrough Weekend Course HERE.
6. Be alone. Be very, very alone. Give yourself the gift of plenty of alone time and learn to cherish and savor it. If you are one of those people who hates being alone, ask yourself how can you learn to LOVE your alone time? You’ve got to be comfortable with the person in your own skin before you can attract someone else and be comfortable with them. Otherwise, another person can become like an addiction.
7. Join us for our FREE “Magic of Heartbreak” 4 part video series where you’ll learn how to transform heart break to the magical opening for love that’s there for you…if you can sprinkle a little *magic* on your heart.
Please let me know in the comments below your thoughts and feelings on this week’s article, any aha’s, and what are you doing to “get IN more”?
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“The unexamined life is not worth living”
- Socrates
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Hi Lara -
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family as you grieve for the loss of your family member. Great that you are experiencing healing and closeness through the process.
Just wanted to ask about Q&A Thursdays. I miss your weekly letters and comments. This past year I launched a new business and I’m mired in marketing and learning activities to make my business successful. I’ve noticed that in addition to all the expected challenges around being a new entrepreneur, I’m drained in a different way than I anticipated. All the emphasis on strategy, implementation, and sales is demanding a lot of masculine energy. I have historically always had a lot of drive and purposefulness anyway and now that part of me is seriously preoccupied. I’m wondering if this is just not the right time for me to be thinking about attracting my soulmate or is that thought just useless mind chatter that’s getting in the way? What do you advise?
Thx,
Lisa
Dear Lara,
I agree with the above. I’m 48 never married because I was terribly hurt in love as a teenager just didn’t know at the time it was my own doing. Over the years I have had many men fall for me and a woman and didn’t care much when I left them. The damage I was causing to myself and them I now see was harmful and kept me from my soul mate my true love. 3 years ago I started a journey of self discovery and inner growth & have followed the magnetizing your true love series. I upped the anti on finding my soul mate since January 2012 and guess what! 8 months later we have found each other. Just want to say to those ladies out there it’s so possible!! Do the inner work, love yourself 100% no matter what, want that special man 100% also and he will show up. If I can do it anyone can do it but you gotta be prepared to do what it takes to manifest him, risky but worth it. xx
Congratulations, Bertha! That’s what it takes, invest time, energy and money in growing yourself. You did it!
Wishing you all the best in life and love,
Lara
Hi Lara,
Thanks for this post. Yes, most people have no other advice other than suggesting that bars, clubs, single’s events, sporting events, etc. are where all of the men spend their time, so women should flock over to territories they may not even be authentically interested in.
I used to be one of them.
Self-care is a huge thing for me. I think I take care and please myself very well. But although I do, I feel a little “flat” asking, “Now what?” Writing in a journal regularly is being done, too… getting clear on what I want, who I want. Maybe my feelings right now will pass, but I guess what I’m experiencing is Boredom. :-T
Any suggestions?
Love,
Hazel
Hazel,
Are you doing all of the steps described in the article, consistently? Do you have a Love Mentor, for instance? have you taken workshops around this topic of attracting soulmate love? Have you invested time, energy and money in these things?
Warmly,
Lara