I believe in living life by one simple principle and it is this: That everyone can have whatever they truly want in life, in each and every area of their life, and that is especially true when it comes to love.
Perhaps your past tells you differently. Perhaps your past tells you that life is full of disappointments. That is also true. There is no getting through life without experiencing disappointments or even a heartache or two.
Have you ever lived as though you really could have it all?
You will know the answer to that question by simply taking a look at your life… Where are you tolerating your life as being less than magnificent? Where in your life are you letting “pretty good” be good enough? It is in those areas that somewhere along the way you decided to settle, or at least decided to protect yourself from further disappointment.
When it comes to love, there is sometimes a tendency to grow increasingly skeptical as the years go by. Just at the time that we feel our heart go pitter-patter with the anticipation of new love, our head chimes in and tells us, “Careful there! Don’t forget to hold back that little bit you will need when this new relationship ends.”
The ironic part about it is that it is a basic human need to love and be loved. It is a common human trait to desire the experience of belonging to and living in groups. The human pull to be in meaningful, loving relationships is so strong, it is hard to believe that the voice in our heads that cautions us away from love stands a chance at all.
Here is the rub: The only way to love, to really love, is with an open heart. It is the only way to experience intimacy and to allow ourselves the experience of knowing another and the fulfillment that comes from being known. It is only with an open heart that we can say fully and completely “Yes!” even when there is no guarantee of the outcome. Finally, it is the only way to truly mate, soul to soul.
What will it take to fall in love again? It will take the courage to gently pat that little voice that tells you to hold back in love on its metaphorical head and tell it, “Thanks for sharing. I’ve got this.” It will take accepting that there are no guarantees in love or in life. It will take accepting that there is only loving for the sake of loving; and finally, it will take being in the wonder of the beautiful thing we call, “falling in love.”
Guest Blogger
Cristin Whiting is the contributing author to the Life Launch Training Team. She is currently working on two different books and hired as an adjunct professor in the Psychology Department of Wake Forest University. Cristin participates in a weekly Master Mind group for writers. She also volunteers as a coach in a leadership training program.
Cristin has a website and multimedia blog called The Zephyr Chronicles which tells the story of her year-long quest to answer the question, “What does it mean to live a life of freedom?” Cristin enjoys abundance in her life through her love for music, dance, writing, and her family. She creates bridges through inspiring (and being inspired by) others who live abundantly and freely. Cristin currently resides in Winston-Salem and has a private psychotherapy practice as a clinical psychologist.
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