When it comes to life, who is perfect? Is there such a thing as a flawless, blissful, it-went-just-as-I-planned-it-to-go-life? Rarely, yes. But for the rest of us, we’ve been knocked down a time or two… or three or four! And when that time shows up unexpectedly in love, during your weight loss plan or smack dab out of the blue as you sit in commuter traffic and throws you that curveball you never thought you’d have to dodge, know this—it isn’t up to you to avoid it. It’s up to you to catch it, throw it back, put your hands on your hips and call out: “Is that all you got?”
With each setback, there is always the opportunity for a comeback, and especially when it comes to finding the one.
It’s the nature of the beast. It’s the chance for you to crack open and see how strong, determined and ready for love you really are. If your relationship ended unexpectedly, know this—the best is yet to come. It’s on its way, and when you look at a setback—any setback—as a chance for a comeback, you can’t lose. Your comeback is absolutely, without a doubt, your silver lining. Here’s how to get on the road to your comeback and come together with the right person for you….gracefully, positively and easily. (No unnecessary drama allowed.)
Aim For a Bigger, Better Love
Are you comfortable with the progress you’re making in your love life, or are you a little too comfortable? In other words, it’s easy to continue doing the same things we’ve always done. Let’s say you’re not satisfied with the types of men you have attracted. Perhaps you’ve just broken up with yet another boyfriend who didn’t fulfill your emotional needs, who wasn’t available emotionally or ready for a commitment.
How can you think the next man that shows up in your life will be different if something doesn’t change in YOU?
So, cultivate change in your future relationships by stepping back, looking deep inside that place that determines what you deserve. Are you dreaming big enough? Do you want to meet your soulmate, but have a belief that true love doesn’t last, or if it does last, that’s for other people and it just isn’t in the cards for you?
If it’s love you want in your life, think bigger, girlfriend. Move out of your comfort zone—that space inside of yourself that until now has thought, “What I have is enough,” (which is a good place to begin from, you just can’t stay there if you want to attract soulmate love) because whether you realize it or not, your comeback is occurring because the obstacle you’ve just gone through could just be cracking you open- if you let it. It’s allowing you to wonder, hmm…what else is out there? What new direction should I take? Aim bigger than you ever have, and dream about your soul mate as not just a possibility, but the only possibility.
Lara’s Soul Mate Cleanse:
When it comes to making a comeback, positivity is key. It’s about turning those “I can’t”, “I shouldn’t” or “He’s probably not out there, anyways” into something tangible, real and achievable. Oh, I almost forgot the ever-popular “I’ll wait to have it happen, if it’s meant to be it’ll happen” – an approach you don’t use for ANYTHING else really important in your life (do you??). But the thing about comebacks – and what few realize- is that in order to achieve what you want (such as meeting your soulmate and spending a ridiculously happy life together) he can’t manifest himself into your life if you don’t believe in him.
Dream him up, draw him in, and he’ll come. To get you started to finding your soul mate, here’s an easy exercise that will help you make room in your life. Once you clear space in your home and your life for love, that means there’s space for your soulmate! He can’t come if you’re so crazy busy and packed with so much going on in your life you can hardly think straight.
Commit one afternoon to what I call a “soul mate cleanse” by turning off your phone, shutting down your laptop and cancelling plans you may have made with friends. This exercise is powerful, and when you put your energy into it, you’ll discover that it won’t just result in a clutter free home, but a life ready for love!
Go through each room in your house—your bedroom, living room, home office, kitchen and bathrooms. What you’re looking for are any ‘artifacts’ of past relationships. So, look for framed photos of you and your ex-boyfriend; love letters he may have sent you at one time, or knick knacks around the house he gave you as gifts—because if you keep them around, you’re not just holding onto ‘stuff’—you’re holding onto an old relationship that no longer exists, and doesn’t support your dreams.
So, start to make room for your soulmate to come into your life by clearing out the clutter. Throw away those ‘artifacts’ of old relationships. Make room for the bigger and better relationship of your life that’s just waiting for you to become open enough to receive, and start living your happily ever after!
Remember: a comeback is the perfect opportunity to get your love life just where you need it, and want it to be. Forget the setbacks. Aim higher, and not just for any old mate that comes around—but a soul mate. You deserve the romantic love life you’ve been dreaming of!
If you’ve enjoyed The Magic of Heartbreak Free Video Series and would like to ask me and Johnny some questions about it, or about making your love comeback, you’ll want to join us on a LIVE Q & A Call this Wednesday night, October 16th at 6:30pm PST/9:30pm EST. Call in to (206) 402-0100, use Access Code 128503# and submit your question right here, right now, and we’ll look to answer it on the call.
Oh, and could your best intentions and efforts get sidetracks by making mistakes in the dating dance that make it hard for your man to find you? to be attracted to you? yup. We’ll be discussing that and taking your questions this Thursday night, October 17th at 6:30pm PST/9:30pm EST. Click HERE to register or get more details.
I hope you enjoyed this week’s article. Please share with me in the comment section below one action step you plan to do to begin your comeback in love. I love to hear from you and I do my best to respond to every comment.
Have a blessed and beautiful week.
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