It’s time for Q&A Thursday!

Have you dated a man who said that he felt that you are too busy? That you don’t need a man…that you don’t need him.

Click on the play button below as I share my thoughts and tips on how to deal with this situation.

And remember, you DO deserve to find the love of your life. Just because you exist, just because you were born, you deserve powerful Soulmate Love.

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In last week’s article, “The Magic of Heartbreak”, I shared with you that you must start to accept the fact that EVERYTHING happens for a reason- and it serves you, if you let it. Including and especially your relationships that didn’t work out.

I also shared with you the importance of starting to perceive your STRONG EMOTIONS as guideposts for you to move toward the life of your dreams. They tell you what your spirit truly wants and truly doesn’t want. These are important clues to KNOWING who the RIGHT man is for you… and who is NOT Mr. Right!

What you want to do is to learn how to tap into your “Inner Knower”- that intuition inside that tells you the right path to go on.

So let’s do a little enlightening exercise here to help you start to find your inner guide, shall we? (and keep in mind that this is an exercise that you will want to go over eventually regarding every major romantic relationship you’ve been involved with, give yourself time, this won’t happen overnight) You will need a piece of paper or a journal for this.

1. What’s the name of the person who you either dated or were married to who hurt you enough in some way that you two are not together anymore? Write the name down and then briefly, write out what this person did to you that hurt you.

2. Now, what did you learn about yourself from the pain and the heartbreak? (Example: I learned that I am a strong and resilient woman, or I learned that I need to gather support around me when I go through a break up). Write this down, as much as you can think of.

3. And what did you commit to NEVER experiencing again as a result of this pain? (For instance, I swore that I’d NEVER be with a man who slept around on me again). Write this down.

4. Now, write out an aspect of who your soulmate is from that commitment above. (For example, My soulmate is monogamous and committed to our relationship 100%.) In other words, the OPPOSITE of who this ex-husband was. Insert: next step, what are the qualities that would lead the person to be faithful, ex. honesty, integrity, communicative, thinks and embodies and expresses that you are enough.

This is a HUGE aspect of your soulmate. This is one of the clues that will help you recognize him when you eventually start to date him.

Do you see how the pain you experienced led you to know more who your soulmate IS and of course who he is not?

Let’s take this further.

5. What aspects of a past relationship did you most adore and cherish? What STRONG “POSITIVE” FEELINGS did you experience throughout this relationship? (for example, he made me feel safe, adored. He thought my body was beautiful. He was kind to me.) Write them down- as many as you can in your journal.

Now, from those STRONG “POSITIVE” FEELINGS, write out some aspects of who your soulmate is and how you’ll feel when you’re with him/her.

You see, those STRONG “POSITIVE” AND STRONG “NEGATIVE” FEELINGS are your clues to who he/she IS!

Your life and your experiences and your STRONG FEELINGS (both “positive” and “negative”) are the roadmap to your soulmate and to the life you’ve always dreamed of- you just have got to learn to recognize the clues and be courageous enough to follow through with them.

To make your soulmate magnetizing list, use the exercise above as a powerful way to get clarity on the many aspects of your soulmate, so you can recognize him when he comes into your life, and not just pass him by!

Enjoy! Here’s to CLARITY on your journey to your true love,

Lara

“Give us clear vision that we may know where to stand and what to stand for- because unless we stand for something, we shall fall for anything”
Peter Marshall

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I’m going to ask some serious love questions…

• Do you keep on attracting the same guy over and over? That one that just won’t commit, or just seems to want a little “you know what” and nothing else…Wondering why you keep attracting the same man in a different body?
• Did you know your “manifestation mindset” could be holding you back in love?
• Do you find yourself scratching your head wondering – WHERE ARE ALL THOSE QUALITY MEN!?!?

In our 7 years of working with single women – we find them asking these questions over and over.

Soulmate love conjures up this idea of butterflies in the stomach, our prince charming coming in a sweeping us off on his white horse, someone that just takes us away from all of our problems. And when we see our reality that looks much different we think we’re broken, or something’s wrong with us – “why can’t I just get it right?!”

And the truth about love is quite different. It’s deeply satisfying and rewarding, but its also work. It can also be simply called “effort”.

All of us were conditioned for how to DO our relationships. We were conditioned by our parents, by TV, by family members, by our friends in high school, and conditioned by our previous relationships.

And this is usually pretty crummy conditioning.

I, along side my soulmate Johnny, are love coaches. Now just to clarify, we are not dating coaches. We are Love Mentors who teach you how to step into your power and find soulmate love. And I want to be your love mentor in this article – we want to be your Love Mentors, because if you are not looking just to keep dating and dating and dating… then you don’t want a dating coach, you want a love coach.

As your love mentor, I’m going to discuss 3 ways you can get more support in your love life.

1. Look at your community -

Who is it that you’re spending time with? Many of you have heard of the Napoleon Hill saying, that you are the sum of your 5 people you spend the most time with.. well now there’s a study to back this up. Friends, Family Are The Biggest Influences On Our Health. A global survey, conducted by a research firm that interviewed 15,000 people living in 12 countries found that over half of the people surveyed said their social circles have the most impact on their lifestyle choices.. Researchers also confirmed what many of us already know: That there’s an “action gap” between peoples’ desire to be healthy and their willingness to change. This is staggering evidence that our behaviors are heavily influenced by our environment.

So we want to ask – who is in your community? How are they supporting you in your journey to finding a soulmate? If you find they’re ridiculing you, or clueless about what you even MEAN about wanting extraordinary love, or telling you to be with someone that you know in your heart just isn’t right, then this may be a sign that you need a new community of friends that can be fully supportive of your new goals.

2. Find people who have what you want

One of the biggest mistakes we see over and over are people TRYING TO FIND A NEW KIND OF RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT SUPPORT

The thing is, many people know that for business success, you want to get a business coach, someone who has results you want. There are all kinds of networking groups, such as E-women, BNI, or more specific groups like toastmasters for public speaking, and within those communities, leaders paving the way….But in the relationships and love area, the most important area of life, attracting the person you spend the rest of your life with- there’s no mentoring, no coaching, and there’s the expectation that its all just supposed to fall together…like magic. As if life is like in the fairy tales that we grew up with and the romantic comedies that we watch. That’s “magical thinking” that we’ve been taught to have, and it doesn’t work.

And we find that most people don’t know that this kind of support exists – which is why they’re thrilled to find a someone to hold their hand through the soulmate finding journey.

When you get new information, new insights, and support, your whole view of what’s possible for you in relationships changes.

3. Be clear on where you’re going – get a roadmap.

A plan helps you get where you want to go. Again, this is one of those areas in business where we just feel like it’s a given – imagine where you want to be in 5 years, create the plan and strategy, have a mentor look over it, and keep refining! Yet in Love, we create the altar, we get our manifestation mojo going – then feel unsure of what else to do, and unwilling to reach out for expert help…then wonder why things don’t turn out.

Definitely DO the altar, get on your manifestation mojo, now ALSO add the plan. Even better if the plan is created with expert help from someone who has done it before (you don’t want to learn to ski from someone who has only read it in a book, you want an expert skier, right?)

Lastly, we want to offer a resource for you to FINALLY get your love community, find people who have what you want, and get clear on where you’re going.

These three reasons above are part of a big mission Johnny and I have, and why we created the Love Breakthrough Weekend. This is truly a soul calling for both of us to help women, bright, brilliant, talented successful women just like you find your true love (because if you’re on this website, I KNOW that’s who you are! I’m calling you out!)

At our Love Breakthrough Weekend you’ll learn how to bring together any and all that you’ve done that has been working and go beyond that and also learn more about what it takes to achieve extraordinary love, the mindset of the soulmate attractor.

We’ll also be discussing:

• WHY you’ve been attracting the wrong type of man for yourself over and over again (it’s shocking, really)… and you will shift it forever- right there at the workshop. No kidding!
• Uncover the hidden limiting beliefs that have been keeping your true love away, (and inviting in all those mediocre or downright dud guys) and adopt powerful new beliefs so that you’ll be carried to soulmate love.
• What to do IN ADDITION to your manifestation mindset to up that manifestation mojo, and make being a soulmate attractor easier than you ever thought possible (and proven to work, how about that?!)

And we’ll be covering way more than we can let you know in this article. You can go to www.lovebreakthroughweekend.com, and type in the coupon code SAVEMYSEAT in the secure shopping cart to receive a huge discount on the tuition, and we’ll get you into the weekend.

I’m sending you a BIG dose of love and support on your journey for true love.

Here’s to YOUR soulmate success,
Lara