The 3 biggest mistakes single women make

by Dr. Lara Fernandez on July 29, 2014

Well, we had a fantastic time in Mt. Shasta. I’m always so grateful every year to connect every year with nature and to appreciate God’s creations!

This week, we leave for a two week trip to New York to visit Johnny’s hometown and friends and family. I’m really excited! Looking forward to living the city life in one of the best cities in the world. icon wink The 3 biggest mistakes single women make

In this week’s article, I share with you the three biggest mistakes that we see women are making in their thinking while trying to find love. I hope you enjoy it.

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The mistakes that most women make around love mainly have to do with their thinking (which leads to their feelings and their actions). So let’s look at the three mindsets that cause the most difficulty and challenges when looking for soulmate love.

ID 100138513 198x300 The 3 biggest mistakes single women make1. “It’s Just Luck” thinking – Most people think that soulmate couples are “just lucky”. What we have found in our research is that 8 out of 10 deeply connected soulmate relationships were intentionally created. So when you see a soulmate connected couple, ask them how they did it (that’s how we started giving talks on love, so SO many of my patients asked me how I attracted Johnny after I told them that I was intentional, the talks grew, the questions kept coming, and still do-and the soulmate couples created from our work expands daily), or bless them from afar. The one thing you don’t want to do is call them lucky-that just affirms your powerlessness.

2. “Either-Or” thinking – Most people think that they can’t have it all in their relationship. That they can’t have both spiritually connected AND amazing sex in their partner. That they can’t have both deep love AND financial abundance. They can’t be themselves, pursue their hopes and dreams AND be in a deeply loving partnership that makes them swoon. That it’s either this or that. Soulmates think “both”, and consequently, we experience both. When you look at this, you see that this “either-or” is really a scarcity mindset. Start thinking an abundance mindset… start thinking “Both-thinking”!

3. “Easy Way Out” thinking – Most people think “what’s the least I can do?” – in life, in love, in relationships. When you want to reach a goal in life, I mean REALLY want to reach that goal, you think what Soulmate couples think – “what ELSE can I do?” In this case – What else can I do to increase the love in my life? To bring me closer to my Soulmate? To be my best self and live my best life NOW?

ID 100233494 199x300 The 3 biggest mistakes single women makeMove past these three biggest mistakes and you’ll be on your way to being your best self, and being the YOU that your Soulmate is looking for. Remember, what you are seeking is seeking you… your job is to be open and prepared for your dreams to come to you.

So, what do YOU think of what I wrote about this week? I’d love to hear from you and I do my best to respond to every comment (because I’m on vacation the next few weeks, it’ll take a little time, but I WILL get back to you)… so leave a comment below here on the blog!


The #1 thing NOT to do when looking for love

by Dr. Lara Fernandez on July 22, 2014

We’re resting after delivering our Love Warrior Training Camp this past weekend. What an INCREDIBLE, heart-opening experience. I am thankful EVERY SINGLE DAY to do this sacred work for women.

We are also about to head up to Mt. Shasta this week for some R & R on that sacred mountain. Looking forward to “filling my cup” there.

In this week’s post, I share with you the #1 thing NOT to do when looking for love. I hope you get value out of it.

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“Half-heartedness doesn’t reach into majesty.” -Rumi

ID 100401521 300x240 The #1 thing NOT to do when looking for loveLooking for soulmate love ain’t for sissies. You SAY you want to find the love of your life and I’m here to tell you, this journey is not for the ambivalent or halfhearted lady. If you kind of want a relationship but also like your “freedom” (which means that you interpret being in relationship as being NOT free), and you say you’re ready to give this looking for love thing a “try”, while just relying on luck, then you’re not fully committed.

But if you are willing to give some time, energy and resources to investing in YOU, then you’re in the right place reading this blog. You see, when you’re looking for soulmate love and a lifetime, committed relationship:

DON’T be half-assed about it!

Give it your all, girlfriend. Go big or go home.

So what does half-heartedness look like?

Dating…dating…dating, and thinking that it’s all about how many dates you go on as you “hope to get lucky”. Thats half-hearted because it doesn’t engage your heart and soul, it’s just actions, like trying to find a needle in a haystack. and it’s tiring, too.

ID 100245762 199x300 The #1 thing NOT to do when looking for loveDoing the same thing year-after-year….after year…after year…and thinking THIS year will be different. What have you read this year to help you understand yourself better? What conversations have you had that have expanded your mind and heart and how you see the world, and yourself? What have you learned that has expanded and literally changed who you are for the better at a core level? One of the phrases that comes up again and again from women when discussing the effect of our advanced program on them and their lives is simply this: “life changing”. What have you done this year, or next, that’s setting you up to have a LIFE-CHANGING experience?

Complaining about men, dating, and relationships, but not becoming a Student of Love. In the fall we’ll be launching our new podcast where you’ll have lots of opportunity to learn about love and yourself, several times a week. We hope you’ll join us and be a Student of Love in a whole new way!

Being half-assed in your LIFE. Are you going for your dreams? Are you working toward meaningful goals? Are you giving yourself the love you wish a man will? If you’re not excited about your life, how can he be? Go for your dreams, but never believe the lie that you can’t have career/business success AND a healthy love life. You can, but not with wishy-washy half heartedness.

ID 10049599 199x300 The #1 thing NOT to do when looking for loveAt the end of the day, at the end of your life, you will want to know that you gave your ALL to living the life you truly desire, the life of your dreams, and that you “left it all on the court” (to quote a basketball saying). THAT is part of what will have your soul be at peace when you arrive at the end of this lifetime. So go for it!

So, what do YOU think of what I wrote about this week? I’d love to hear from you and I do my best to respond to every comment (because I’m on vacation the next few weeks, it’ll take a little time, but I WILL get back to you)… so leave a comment below here on the blog!


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