5 Easy Things You Can Do Right Now To Prepare For Love

by Dr. Lara Fernandez on October 21, 2014

So I am a new auntie! Johnny’s sister Zahra (who lives in Denmark) just had a little baby girl, Chloe, a week ago! We are enjoying the pictures and oo-ing and ah-ing over them and cannot wait to visit next summer and get to meet her precious self! As we reflected on all that Zahra had gone through to attract her soulmate Henrik and the life that she lives today with him, we just cried with joy!

You see, Zahra prepared herself for love. Actually, so did Henrik. They had both been married and heartbroken and divorced before, but they didn’t give up. In this week’s article, I share with you some steps that they took and that Johnny and I took to be READY for each other and to WELCOME our soulmates to us! Enjoy!

With love,

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autumn 72736 640 5 Easy Things You Can Do Right Now To Prepare For LoveDon’t you just LOVE fall? It’s one of my favorite times of the year. Here in the Northern Hemisphere, we are preparing for the cooler, crisper months. This time of year is such a great time to re-connect and reach inside yourself and simply go inwards. Now that the playful, carefree days of summer are over, it’s time to reflect on how you’re going to create the last 3 months of 2014 (!!!). It’s a great time to commit to learn new information and create a new plan; a plan that includes living the life of your dreams with your soulmate by your side. You can start this process right away and my tips this week will help you start going in the right direction.

1. Clean House

Beauty is a high, high value of mine, and surrounding myself with it sends my spirits soaring. Start with a good old fashioned FALL CLEANING. Your clean house allows for a clean mind, body, and soul. Clutter in your surroundings causes clutter in your mind, making it hard to consciously feel your best about yourself (a must to attract love). Once it’s sparkling clean, do your best to make it cozy and comfy and absolutely beautiful.

Crafty 5 Easy Things You Can Do Right Now To Prepare For LoveYou don’t need to spend lots of money to make your home beautiful. Save up a little money and spend it on adding some fall touches, put some beautiful orange and yellow flowers in vases all over the house, buy or bring out your favorite warm candles, and light the fire if you have a fireplace. Bake something for someone you care about and bring it by their home, do some crafts with your child or with a friend or two (maybe make a soulmate vision board??), and just relish in the season that was made for introspection and comfort.

And speaking of cleaning house, give yourself some time to take stock of your entire life right now. Are there any toxic relationships you need to let go of? Is there a grudge or regret that you’re hanging on to? It’s time to release them. Consider this a fall cleaning for your mental health.

Action: What specific action will you take to clean house this week? It doesn’t have to take hours to start. Share in the comments below!

2. Cut out “retail therapy”

Have you ever found yourself buying something you don’t need, to make yourself happy when you’re down? Do you spend more when you’re stressed? “Retail therapy” is one method of stress relief that many people use consciously or unconsciously — it’s the act of buying yourself a little something to boost your mood when you’re feeling low, and it’s very common in women and teens. “Buyers Remorse” soon follows (usually around the time you look at your bank account or get that credit card bill) and research reveals that we then feel worse than before, and are in a worse place in your life – a terrible downward spiral. (stuff is different than experiences, like vacations or classes which don’t have the same “buyers remorse” as when buying physical objects)

woman 169286 640 5 Easy Things You Can Do Right Now To Prepare For LoveNow, I like shopping as much (if not more!) than the next woman… but I’ve learned that shopping while in emotional pain causes more pain later. It DOES make you feel better temporarily, but it’s a temporary high (yes, a high… research shows retail therapy while under stress triggers the same areas in the brain as cocaine or alcohol in addicts), and believe me, there’s certain to be a crash sooner or later.

Action: What specific action can you take this week to simply be more mindful of any retail therapy tendencies you may have? Perhaps it’s simply to commit to NOT go shopping when the going gets tough, but to sit instead and journal your feelings and then go out for a LONG hike in nature, whatever the weather!

3. Reconnect with others

Since the weather is starting to turn a bit colder at this time, people tend to stay at home more. While I understand not wanting to leave your newly cleaned and cozy house, you need to get out and connect with people also. Enjoying your time at home TOO much could lead to feelings of isolation, or cabin fever. Spend some time with your favorite people. Really. Of course, you are super busy. So are they. But life is short, dear one. Those people you keep saying you want to go out to dinner with but never reach out to? Either reach out to them and put the date on the calendar this week… or simply de-commit from that idea and just let it go. You are tying up valuable energies within yourself when you SAY you want to do something, but never actually take action on it.

vegetables 218139 640 5 Easy Things You Can Do Right Now To Prepare For LoveGo to your local farmers market with that dear friend, attend fall festivals, or check out the local pumpkin patch with your kids and another single mom and her kids. Whatever you do, do it with all your heart. Getting out in your community is very important as it gives you a sense of belonging and identity. It’s an important part of learning and growing – which is why all our courses emphasize the community aspect.

Action: What specific action will you take to reconnect with others this week? Who will you reach out to? Where will you go? Share with me, I’d love to hear about it.

4. Reconnect with yourself.

Often, like once a week, give yourself the gift of a date night with yourself. This is a practice I did for myself when I was single and was looking for love. “Dating myself” and committing time to myself gave me an opportunity to PRACTICE and EMBODY the level of commitment I desired from my beloved.

woman 172757 640 5 Easy Things You Can Do Right Now To Prepare For LoveHere’s some ideas for your date night with yourself:

a. Turn off all electronics. Challenge yourself and take NO pictures of your candles, incense, bathtub filled with rose petals, etc so you CANNOT post them to Instagram or Facebook! Just be alone without your phone or computer.

b. Turn on some beautiful instrumental music that makes your soul happy.

c. Get out your beautiful soulmate manifesting journal (you DO have one, don’t you?) and take the time to journal any and all things that are going on in your love life and life in general. Remember, you are a holistic being… and how your living situation with your roommate is going WILL affect your love life, for example. So journal your thoughts and feelings on your life.

5. Expand

Commit to learn something new about love… become what I call a “Student of Love”. Expand your mind. Read a new book, preferably in a subject or setting you know little about. If you’re too busy to do this, you’re too busy to fit in a man, darling. Expand and create the space NOW for real love. This will stretch you as a person and allows growth. If you’re truly interested in growing immensely, take a class in something you are deeply interested in, or even in an area that you previously assumed that you’d be too much of a novice to even try. For example, love great pictures but feel like “photography” classes will be boring, too technical, or just not fun? Take a class on it to gain a new appreciation and new knowledge! Who knows? Maybe it will become a new passion once you learn a little more.

photographer 407068 640 5 Easy Things You Can Do Right Now To Prepare For LoveTo take this one step further, take on learning a new skill! Learn how to speak another language, or the art of making jewelry. Of course, you can always do what I did and become a student of love, a student of how to really attract true love. We’re big on that one. icon wink 5 Easy Things You Can Do Right Now To Prepare For Love

ACTION: How are you expanding yourself past your comfort zone right now? I’d love to hear from you what you’re going to do.

Please share with me some or all of the ACTIONS you’ll take right away to become more open and available to love. I love to hear from you and I do my best to respond to every comment.

Make this fall your best fall ever and head into the cooler months of winter a more fulfilled and replenished you! Have a GREAT week!

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The Top 10 Reasons Being With Your Soulmate Is So Awesome

by Dr. Lara Fernandez on October 14, 2014

We had such a beautiful weekend! Saturday night, we went out with our Advanced Program client and her new husband for a double date to talk all things love and marriage. What an honor and a blessing to witness their love and respect for one another. Every time we go out to dinner with a client and her husband or fiance, or officiate a wedding, or receive an email about another soulmate love connection, or attend the baby shower of one of our clients, I am strongly reminded of our mission to empower women through their relationships.

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Here’s to LOVE in your life, dear lady. Enjoy this week’s article.


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johnnlara The Top 10 Reasons Being With Your Soulmate Is So AwesomeThis week, I decided to share with you why I love being with my soulmate, why it just rocks. There’s no better feeling in the world than being loved for who I REALLY am, for ME. When I met my beloved, Johnny, I felt (and still feel) feel fully seen, heard, and respected… more than I’ve ever experienced in my life. My intent in writing this article is not only to gush about my beloved, but to give you HOPE, to help you get and stay excited on your journey to love, to get into the “feeling space” of being with your soulmate… and most importantly, to convey the message that if I can do this, if I can have this, SO CAN YOU.

  1. Somebody who really gets you and your funky quirks and loves you not only in spite of them, but perhaps BECAUSE of them…
  2. You know he’s totally got your back, no matter what type of shizzle hits the fan
  3. Making babies with the love of your life (if you want that) is one of life’s greatest joys
  4. When you’re with the RIGHT man for you, you totally and completely and finally GET why it never worked out with anybody else before
  5. Planning your life with your soulmate by your side rocks. I always wanted that man who would hold my hand joyfully while we picked out patio furniture. That’s just as exciting and actually MORE heartwarming to me as going out for a glamorous night out on the town!
  6. The RIGHT man, a healthy man… LOVES it when you take good care of yourself. It’s actually a turn on when you keep your self care up. He knows – and believes in – the old adage, “A happy wife = a happy life”.
  7. He WANTS to do things for you. When you communicate your appreciation clearly and honestly to him for the things he does, he will want to do more and more! I really appreciate it when Johnny replaces the light bulbs in the house and the batteries in our smoke alarms. I love it (and I show my appreciation) because he takes his role as safety manager of our home and family seriously. So hot!
  8. When challenges in life happen… and they WILL, even with your soulmate, the RIGHT man for you will not duck and cover. His character will shine through and he will “stand in the center of the fire with you and NOT SHRINK BACK”. Johnny and I have faced down so many challenges together: financial, health, and family drama and more over our 14 years together. And it’s made us stronger and helped us to really embrace our relationship as a spiritual practice. Truly, our lives together just keep getting better and better!
  9. Waking up each morning to the man who adores you is one of the best feelings in the world. You feel at ease, loved and loving and love-able.
  10. When you meet him, you may not recognize him instantly (no matter what the fairy tales or romcoms say), but when you know, YOU’LL KNOW because this will be unlike any other relationship you’ve had before in your life. It stands apart so much from anything you have experienced that it becomes obvious fairly soon what is happening.

love 316640 640 The Top 10 Reasons Being With Your Soulmate Is So AwesomeAs I wrote this Top 10 list, I got all mushy inside… all mushy with gratitude that I did whatever it took to consciously and intentionally draw him to me. I’d love to hear your comments on this article. I love to hear from you, so please share your thoughts below and I will get back to you as soon as I can.

Have a blessed week!


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