Johnny and I have been together for almost 13 years now and we have so many women come up to us in our workshops, or on our telecourses and ask us questions like:
~ Do you two ever fight? I was told that if it’s a REAL soulmate relationship, that you will never argue.
~ Is being in this relationship as good as you make it sound?
~ How do you keep your love alive?
And these questions tell us a LOT about what the mass consciousness is around relationships. We see that there’s a sense of perfectionism around what soulmate love REALLY is. That if you disagree and even if you argue, that it couldn’t be true love. We also see a lot of the opposite, a belief that relationships just COULDN’T be as wonderful as Johnny and I are saying.
But here’s the TRUTH:
Soulmate Love is not it’s all cracked up to be. Let me tell you the REAL DEAL.
You see, soulmate love is BETTER! Words simply are not adequate to explain how AMAZING it is. How so?
~ Waking up with the man who loves and adores me and expresses it to me fully is awesome.
~ When the tough times happen in life (and they do happen), knowing that he’s got my back no matter what is so grounding.
~ When we disagree about something and even argue about it (YES, we DO argue sometimes), we are committed to each other anyway. We love each other through the discomfort of those moments.
~ Knowing that we are both committed to our relationship as a sacred and spiritual responsibility to ourselves, our child, our community and to our higher power is the best feeling in the world. Our relationship is more than just about us. It’s a cherished agreement and understanding that we have with one another.
~ Seeing the world through each other’s eyes with the agreement that we are a TEAM. Team Fernandez. We stick together. Feels so so good!
~ Knowing that we don’t have to be “perfect” (whatever that means, and not that it exists anyway), and that we love each other, no-matter-what helps us each feel safe with one another. And that safety is our sanctuary.
And if you’re wondering how we keep our love alive… well, we don’t have to “keep” it alive, like some person that’s in a coma needing life support. Our love exists and keeps growing because of the people we became BEFORE we met each other and from there, we attracted the RIGHT person for us.
Because attracting the right person wasn’t “the finish line” – it was the beginning of an incredible new chapter of our lives, and we haven’t stopped learning, growing, expanding, being grateful, and cherishing ourselves, each other, our daughter, and our community, and on and on…
So what do YOU want in your relationship? When you attract your soulmate, what do you want it to be like? Tell me below in the comments section. Share your dream! I love to read your comments and I try my best to answer every one.
Until next week…
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WHY do you want to find your soulmate? Why do you want to live the life of your dreams? What’s YOUR dream? Are you chasing the “paper” (just the guy, the money, the hot body, the next job promotion) or are you going for fulfillment, joy, peace, self-love… the feelings your dreams, when realized, will actually provide you?
2. There’s plenty of _______ (good men, money, great jobs) to go around. There is enough of everything.