What do your past relationships reveal about YOU?

by Dr. Lara Fernandez on August 26, 2014

We’ve been back at work this past week, enjoying and savoring the blessing of our work that has so much meaning and joy in it. Grateful!

After the last two weeks of articles from Johnny I’m back with a very special question for you: So, what do your past relationships say about you? Do you really want to know? I can tell you… you DO want to know… they reveal things about yourself that you can learn from and grow and ultimately choose a healthier relationship because you learned this information. So keep reading. icon wink What do your past relationships reveal about YOU?

P.S. Our podcast will launch this fall! Do you have a love or dating question you’d like us to answer on the podcast? Please call (512) 827-0505 Ext 3928 (remember to use the extension!). Please say your first name and your city or country, then ask your brief and focused question.

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Truth tellin’ time, here. You’ve had some relationships. Some great ones and some horrible ones and maybe most were somewhere a little bit of both. No matter how they turned out, they all revealed something about you. Something important. Something that you can learn from and evolve from and ultimately, if you want to, be able to gather your energy in such a way that you become a powerful magnet for your true love and living your dream life with him.

ID 10042729 What do your past relationships reveal about YOU?I remember being single myself and after a particularly grueling break-up with a guy I had dated for about a year, I was discussing the relationship, its aftermath and it’s *stunning* similarities to other, past relationships with my love coach. I had just hired her, and I fully expected her to sympathize with me about what a jerk this guy was. Imagine my surprise when she firmly yet lovingly told me, “Lara, you need to remember that YOU are the common denominator in all your failed relationships”.

This really pissed me off at first.

But, I had to admit, she was right. I’M the one who had attracted the “emotionally unavailable” commitment phobes after all. I’M the one who stayed with them way after I discovered that they were NOT my soulmate. I’M the one who tried to shapeshift myself and them into something we just weren’t, hoping something would change, and that we’d magically transform into the perfect happy couple.

Then, there came the day when my love coach had me list my past relationships on a piece of paper and evaluate them and what went “wrong”. Wow! What a powerful process that dramatically shifted the way I showed up in relationships and the epiphanies I received helped me become a more powerful magnet for Johnny.

Sooooo, bringing it all back to YOU… I have a Big Question for you.

What did you have to believe about YOURSELF to attract the relationships you’ve attracted in the past?

Contemplate that for a few minutes- maybe even journal about it.

Now… another BIG QUESTION:

What would you have to believe about yourself to attract the life of your dreams with your soulmate by your side? Who would you have to be?

ID 10030958 What do your past relationships reveal about YOU?I invite you to journal on this…really write it out. Get clear on YOU and the person you’d need to BE to have what and who you desire.

And then, ask your Higher Power to give you clear signs and clear opportunities to BE that person. FOCUS on being that person everyday. Now… let go and let God and watch the miracles unfold!

Have fun with this. Allow God to show off for you. See what comes up for you.

So, what do YOU think of what I wrote about this week? I’d love to hear from you and I do my best to respond to every comment … so leave a comment below here on the blog!

With love and joy,
Lara

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You’re stronger than you think

by Johnny Fernandez on August 19, 2014

We are back home after a delightful time in NYC. It was the perfect vacation: we were thrilled to go to NYC… and then thrilled to leave and come home to our little town by the water, Benicia. Life is good!

Here’s a few more pictures from last week:

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You’re stronger than you think you are. Johnny has written this week’s article to encourage you. Allow him, and me, to encourage you this week on your soulmate journey and remind you of the truth about you.

P.S. OUR PODCAST WILL LAUNCH THIS FALL!

In the fall we’ll be launching a BRAND NEW PODCAST. Mostly Johnny will be answering YOUR love and/or dating related questions on the podcast. Do you have a love question you’d like us to answer? Just call in and ask it by calling (512) 827-0505 Ext 3928 (remember to use the extension or we won’t get the question!). Please say your first name and your city or country, then ask your brief and focused question. And… we have a question for you –do you use the Apple Podcast app? Stitcher? Podcatcher? SoundCloud? something else? Please let me know-just reply to this email with your answer. We’re very excited about being able to offer you way more learnings several times a week on the podcast!

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ID 10063626 199x300 You’re stronger than you thinkWhen many people think about love, they may not think that being strong has a lot to do with it. But it does. For men and women. Or maybe they do think of strength, but in the sense of being strong, keeping a wall up and protecting yourself from being hurt.

The walls that are built to protect are the same walls that keep one from feeling their true feelings. Men are encouraged to “be tough”, women are encouraged to “be independent.” Being tough and independent are kinda good things, and I understand why these walls are built, but it’s a false protection, and doesn’t give one the sense of joy, peace, even security that is often what we really want.

You can live strongly without those walls – you are stronger than you think. by getting in touch with, and opening your heart, you get stronger. Women in our advanced program say often say they have never felt more open hearted and stronger in their lives.

“The very strength that protects the heart from injury is the strength that prevents the heart from enlarging to its intended greatness within. The song of the voice is sweet, but the song of the heart is the pure voice of heaven.” – Kahlil Gibran

I remember feeling so down, so bad about myself after making a mess of my first marriage, that I didn’t feel that I had the strength to “get out there again” and “go for love” in fact I felt that I was defeated, fundamentally flawed, and I had plenty of evidence to prove it.

ID 100265464 300x199 You’re stronger than you thinkLara too. She said she felt the same fear: “While I said I could and even would love again, deep down I was just scared, and didn’t feel I had the strength to withstand being hurt again, and scared that I would hurt another again. At some point I did wonder, though, if I didn’t love again, if I wasn’t loved again…would life even be worth living?”

“It is truly said: It does not take much strength to do things, but it requires great strength to decide what to do.” – Chow Ching

Then I (Johnny) had a turning point conversation. I had a good friend remind me of how far I’d come in life, all that I’d overcome just to be there, and encouraged me by saying “if you could do ___, then you can come through this, and you CAN find that love I know you want.”

So let me be that friend to you now. Think of something challenging that you’ve overcome, something that might have been tough, even scary, but you pulled through, and even triumphed. If you can do that, you have it within you.

You have within you the strength and the loving heart to attract love, you’re stronger than you think.

“Do not pray for easy lives. Pray to be stronger men(women)! Do not pray for tasks equal to your powers. Pray for power equal to your tasks.” – Phillips Brooks

ID 10095434 300x199 You’re stronger than you thinkPlease take a deep breath, and remember…you may not be exactly where you want to be, but thank God you’re not where you used to be. Your strength, faith, and love has brought you through…and will take you through from here. Tap into your strength, get stronger… and just don’t give up! Your Future Self, and your Future Husband, will thank you!

So, what do YOU think of what I wrote about this week? I’d love to hear from you and I do my best to respond to every comment… so leave a comment below here on the blog!

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