You’re stronger than you think

by Johnny Fernandez on August 19, 2014

We are back home after a delightful time in NYC. It was the perfect vacation: we were thrilled to go to NYC… and then thrilled to leave and come home to our little town by the water, Benicia. Life is good!

Here’s a few more pictures from last week:

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You’re stronger than you think you are. Johnny has written this week’s article to encourage you. Allow him, and me, to encourage you this week on your soulmate journey and remind you of the truth about you.

P.S. OUR PODCAST WILL LAUNCH THIS FALL!

In the fall we’ll be launching a BRAND NEW PODCAST. Mostly Johnny will be answering YOUR love and/or dating related questions on the podcast. Do you have a love question you’d like us to answer? Just call in and ask it by calling (512) 827-0505 Ext 3928 (remember to use the extension or we won’t get the question!). Please say your first name and your city or country, then ask your brief and focused question. And… we have a question for you –do you use the Apple Podcast app? Stitcher? Podcatcher? SoundCloud? something else? Please let me know-just reply to this email with your answer. We’re very excited about being able to offer you way more learnings several times a week on the podcast!

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ID 10063626 199x300 You’re stronger than you thinkWhen many people think about love, they may not think that being strong has a lot to do with it. But it does. For men and women. Or maybe they do think of strength, but in the sense of being strong, keeping a wall up and protecting yourself from being hurt.

The walls that are built to protect are the same walls that keep one from feeling their true feelings. Men are encouraged to “be tough”, women are encouraged to “be independent.” Being tough and independent are kinda good things, and I understand why these walls are built, but it’s a false protection, and doesn’t give one the sense of joy, peace, even security that is often what we really want.

You can live strongly without those walls – you are stronger than you think. by getting in touch with, and opening your heart, you get stronger. Women in our advanced program say often say they have never felt more open hearted and stronger in their lives.

“The very strength that protects the heart from injury is the strength that prevents the heart from enlarging to its intended greatness within. The song of the voice is sweet, but the song of the heart is the pure voice of heaven.” – Kahlil Gibran

I remember feeling so down, so bad about myself after making a mess of my first marriage, that I didn’t feel that I had the strength to “get out there again” and “go for love” in fact I felt that I was defeated, fundamentally flawed, and I had plenty of evidence to prove it.

ID 100265464 300x199 You’re stronger than you thinkLara too. She said she felt the same fear: “While I said I could and even would love again, deep down I was just scared, and didn’t feel I had the strength to withstand being hurt again, and scared that I would hurt another again. At some point I did wonder, though, if I didn’t love again, if I wasn’t loved again…would life even be worth living?”

“It is truly said: It does not take much strength to do things, but it requires great strength to decide what to do.” – Chow Ching

Then I (Johnny) had a turning point conversation. I had a good friend remind me of how far I’d come in life, all that I’d overcome just to be there, and encouraged me by saying “if you could do ___, then you can come through this, and you CAN find that love I know you want.”

So let me be that friend to you now. Think of something challenging that you’ve overcome, something that might have been tough, even scary, but you pulled through, and even triumphed. If you can do that, you have it within you.

You have within you the strength and the loving heart to attract love, you’re stronger than you think.

“Do not pray for easy lives. Pray to be stronger men(women)! Do not pray for tasks equal to your powers. Pray for power equal to your tasks.” – Phillips Brooks

ID 10095434 300x199 You’re stronger than you thinkPlease take a deep breath, and remember…you may not be exactly where you want to be, but thank God you’re not where you used to be. Your strength, faith, and love has brought you through…and will take you through from here. Tap into your strength, get stronger… and just don’t give up! Your Future Self, and your Future Husband, will thank you!

So, what do YOU think of what I wrote about this week? I’d love to hear from you and I do my best to respond to every comment… so leave a comment below here on the blog!

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The SHOCKING truth about soulmate love

by Johnny Fernandez on August 12, 2014

We are still having loads of fun here in New York! Sending you love from the city that never sleeps! icon wink The SHOCKING truth about soulmate love

In this week’s article, written by Johnny, he’s sharing with you the SHOCKING truth about soulmate love and how you find it. I truly hope you enjoy it and find value in it.

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ID 10042266 198x300 The SHOCKING truth about soulmate loveWhen I say shocking, I mean shocking. It’s a shock that most people say they already know but fail to embrace. Just like most people SAY they don’t watch much TV, or don’t text/talk and drive, and well…someone is watching all that TV, and someone is (sadly) making DWT (Driving While Texting) stats shoot through the roof. Someone…someplace…but not you, not me, oh no, not us…

So here it is: the shocking truth is that soulmate love happens because of… failure.

Yep, the shocking truth behind soulmate love and every other miracle is failure. Massive, painful, heartbreaking, hurtful, embarrassing, and hopeless failure.

But are we failures? Oh no, not us, not you, not me, someone someplace, but not us…oh no. Failure isn’t the whole experience, but it’s a part of it, a big part of it, but most people lose their taste for failure early on in life, so they avoid it at all costs. The one sure fire way to not fail is to not try. And therein lies the shocking truth. I’m with my soulmate right now, this summer we are celebrating 14 years of blissful love because I failed in love. I suffered heartbreak, I was a mess, I hurt, I hurt others, I embarrassed myself, I felt hopeless, looked hopeless, felt stupid, asked for help, messed up again anyway, again and again, and kept on…trying… learning, growing, and never gave up.

Most people are not trying to find love, they are trying to not fail. Trying not to look stupid, not to embarrass themselves, not to get hurt again, trying not to look like they are trying…so they can never ever look like they are failing.

ID 100260526 300x236 The SHOCKING truth about soulmate loveAny miracle I have ever experienced – and I count much of life in addition to my life itself as a miracle – is the result of massive failure. I’ve failed repeatedly and embarrassingly with money, so I now enjoy abundance most only dream of. I’m still striving for even better health, but overall I’m healthy and vibrant at age 49, feeling stronger and more vibrant every day and increasing my energy and vitality because I’ve experienced and had very close to me painful and heartbreaking health failure. I feel blessed by, guided and protected by, and closer to God/Spirit/The Universe because I cursed and smashed against the idea of anything beyond myself and outside of myself…only when my smarts failed to bring me true inner happiness and true love did I allow the Universe to guide and help me.

In other words – failure has led me to love, abundance, health, joy, and inner peace.

Want a miracle in your life? Be willing to fail. Massively.

1460047 10152085907197845 1749418339 n 225x300 The SHOCKING truth about soulmate loveBe willing to ask for help, get it, and fail again, maybe even repeatedly, but whatever you do…don’t stop trying, don’t stop believing (maybe that should be a song), and don’t give up on love, or on yourself.

So maybe you’re a failure just like me, or maybe you haven’t allowed yourself to fail enough, but we all deserve to fail a lot more, look a lot more foolish, and learn the same lessons a few dozen times ’till we really get it…why? So we can LIVE a lot more and experience the miracles that life has in store. You deserve that too!

Thanks for letting me share this article with you. In the fall we’ll be launching a BRAND NEW PODCAST. I’ll be answering questions on the podcast, if you’d like to ask us a love and/or dating related question please call in and ask it by calling (512) 827-0505 Ext 3928 (remember to use the extension or we won’t get the question!). Please say your first name and your city or country, then ask your brief and focused question. Thanks and get your podcast app ready. Now I have a question for you –do you use the Apple Podcast app? Stitcher? Podcatcher? Soundcloud? something else? Please let me know-just reply to this email, we’re very excited about being able to offer you way more learnings several times a week on the podcast!

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