This could be you!

by Dr. Lara Fernandez on September 2, 2014

This week, we are preparing to deliver one of our live events for our advanced program clients. As always, we are thrilled and excited to do the work that we do! Supporting women to fully step into their power in love, life and relationships is the BEST work I know of!

This week’s article is meant to encourage you. To give you hope. The journey to finding your soul’s mate is rarely a tiptoe through the tulips. It is not for the faint of heart. It is meant for the strong and courageous and for those who are FULL OF HOPE. May this article inspire that hope within you.

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Johnny and I were just reminiscing the other day about the time we had the honor and the privilege to be invited to the lovely home of one of our clients a few years ago. We got to sit down with her and her soulmate husband, and to snuggle with their little baby too. It was so fun and yet so tender and meaningful for all of us… because we remember when she first started working with us about a couple of short years ago.

She had tears in her eyes as she recounted her journey to soulmate love with us. As she spoke, I looked at her loving, adoring and kind husband, and her beautiful baby boy, started to cry myself…. and we all agreed the journey had been sooooooo WORTH IT.

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She had been married before and had a painful, hurtful ending to that marriage, had made some tough choices about her career, and was 40 years old, and thinking she would never have a child, though she dearly wanted one.

What was the thing that made all the difference for her? How did she do it?

Well, what she did was she took a good, hard look at her life, and saw that although her family was pressuring her to get married, her friends were also single and wondering “what’s up with men these days?”…she realized that they weren’t actually HELPING her. Maybe because they didn’t know how. They cared, but often caring just isn’t enough. This was especially tough for her to come to terms with, coming from a close Indian family – she was and is close to her family – and at the same time wanting to chart her own path in her life.

She decided that there must be more to life than just getting by, struggling to feel like herself, even as she had professional success (she’s a physician), and it seemed like she should “have it all together” she didn’t quite feel that way.

ID 10069294 This could be you!She stumbled across us and decided that she was ready for help and support… she learned about our Love Breakthrough Course and though she had doubts, fears and worries, she just WENT for it, trusting herself, and trusting that the universe always had her back. She had never done a course like this before, but she registered very soon after she learned about it, jumped in and participated at her 100%.

And with the healing, the exercises, the information, and the tools provided in that course as a foundation, she began to love herself more, she decided to take her self love and learning further, joined us at a live Love Breakthrough Weekend, and became a committed student of soulmate love, and of being her real self, comfortable being herself.

Other than med school, she said she had never taken anything so seriously, but unlike med school, this was fun and easier than she thought.

She teared up as she and her husband -their lovely baby boy always in someone’s arms – walked around their home and showed us the areas in her home where other women in our community contributed to her new life, her being her real self, and how much our teachings changed her perspective, her experiences, and her life.

She even offered to be interviewed by us for future women in the telecourse who are similarly committed to love, but who might be afraid of their old habits, the “mistakes” they’ve made, and could use a dose of inspiration. As well as seeing that it’s really possible to change the direction your love life is going. She was a busy new mom, wife, and was still a practicing doctor at the time, but she wanted to share her truth and her journey with other women who came after her and to share hope.

ID 100171752 This could be you!So today’s article is really just me sharing with you this story of “if she can do it you can do it”. And that’s the truth. She felt like she might be too old for love, too old to have a child, too broken around relationships, had too bad of a “picker” after her first marriage was so painful…yet she believed…that if we could do it, and other women we’ve helped could do it, then she could too, she just had to learn how.

You can too. No matter your age, you’re never too young to take this area of your life more seriously. I was 28 when I made the decision to do whatever I needed to do, to learn, to become a true “Student of Love”, to grow, in order to attract my soulmate and by 31 I was married and pregnant. No matter your life experience. No matter what your well meaning friends and family say. And no matter what those “gremlins” in your own head say – let me say it again – if she can do it, you can too. Really. And if you have had hard times in love…that’ll make the victory of finding your true love that much sweeter, you’ll appreciate it more, believe me. I do. She does. You will too.

“The truth that many people never understand, until it is too late, is that the more you try to avoid suffering the more you suffer because smaller and more insignificant things begin to torture you in proportion to your fear of being hurt.” – Thomas Merton

So, what do YOU think of what I wrote about this week? I’d love to hear from you and I do my best to respond to every comment … so leave a comment below here on the blog!

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What do your past relationships reveal about YOU?

by Dr. Lara Fernandez on August 26, 2014

We’ve been back at work this past week, enjoying and savoring the blessing of our work that has so much meaning and joy in it. Grateful!

After the last two weeks of articles from Johnny I’m back with a very special question for you: So, what do your past relationships say about you? Do you really want to know? I can tell you… you DO want to know… they reveal things about yourself that you can learn from and grow and ultimately choose a healthier relationship because you learned this information. So keep reading. icon wink What do your past relationships reveal about YOU?

P.S. Our podcast will launch this fall! Do you have a love or dating question you’d like us to answer on the podcast? Please call (512) 827-0505 Ext 3928 (remember to use the extension!). Please say your first name and your city or country, then ask your brief and focused question.

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Truth tellin’ time, here. You’ve had some relationships. Some great ones and some horrible ones and maybe most were somewhere a little bit of both. No matter how they turned out, they all revealed something about you. Something important. Something that you can learn from and evolve from and ultimately, if you want to, be able to gather your energy in such a way that you become a powerful magnet for your true love and living your dream life with him.

ID 10042729 What do your past relationships reveal about YOU?I remember being single myself and after a particularly grueling break-up with a guy I had dated for about a year, I was discussing the relationship, its aftermath and it’s *stunning* similarities to other, past relationships with my love coach. I had just hired her, and I fully expected her to sympathize with me about what a jerk this guy was. Imagine my surprise when she firmly yet lovingly told me, “Lara, you need to remember that YOU are the common denominator in all your failed relationships”.

This really pissed me off at first.

But, I had to admit, she was right. I’M the one who had attracted the “emotionally unavailable” commitment phobes after all. I’M the one who stayed with them way after I discovered that they were NOT my soulmate. I’M the one who tried to shapeshift myself and them into something we just weren’t, hoping something would change, and that we’d magically transform into the perfect happy couple.

Then, there came the day when my love coach had me list my past relationships on a piece of paper and evaluate them and what went “wrong”. Wow! What a powerful process that dramatically shifted the way I showed up in relationships and the epiphanies I received helped me become a more powerful magnet for Johnny.

Sooooo, bringing it all back to YOU… I have a Big Question for you.

What did you have to believe about YOURSELF to attract the relationships you’ve attracted in the past?

Contemplate that for a few minutes- maybe even journal about it.

Now… another BIG QUESTION:

What would you have to believe about yourself to attract the life of your dreams with your soulmate by your side? Who would you have to be?

ID 10030958 What do your past relationships reveal about YOU?I invite you to journal on this…really write it out. Get clear on YOU and the person you’d need to BE to have what and who you desire.

And then, ask your Higher Power to give you clear signs and clear opportunities to BE that person. FOCUS on being that person everyday. Now… let go and let God and watch the miracles unfold!

Have fun with this. Allow God to show off for you. See what comes up for you.

So, what do YOU think of what I wrote about this week? I’d love to hear from you and I do my best to respond to every comment … so leave a comment below here on the blog!

With love and joy,
Lara

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You’re stronger than you think

August 19, 2014

We are back home after a delightful time in NYC. It was the perfect vacation: we were thrilled to go to NYC… and then thrilled to leave and come home to our little town by the water, Benicia. Life is good! Here’s a few more pictures from last week: You’re stronger than you think you […]

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The SHOCKING truth about soulmate love

August 12, 2014

We are still having loads of fun here in New York! Sending you love from the city that never sleeps! In this week’s article, written by Johnny, he’s sharing with you the SHOCKING truth about soulmate love and how you find it. I truly hope you enjoy it and find value in it. When I […]

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“Don’t chase the paper, chase the dream”- P.Diddy

August 5, 2014

We are enjoying our time on the East Coast. We’ve been visiting friends and family we haven’t seen in years and enjoying the FOOD.  Here’s a picture of Johnny and his dad. We helped turn his apartment into a Yankee man cave. Lots of fun! This week’s article is all about YOUR dreams and what are you […]

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The 3 biggest mistakes single women make

July 29, 2014

Well, we had a fantastic time in Mt. Shasta. I’m always so grateful every year to connect every year with nature and to appreciate God’s creations! This week, we leave for a two week trip to New York to visit Johnny’s hometown and friends and family. I’m really excited! Looking forward to living the city […]

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